Sexual Orientation

21 11 2009

What an incendiary issue!  On one side there is an army of people who oppose giving up an inch of ground to another army of people who feel like it is their right to possess.  It is such a polarizing issue that I have seen very little dialog between the two camps and very little (if any) civility.  What I do find are unfair stereotypes, hype, rhetoric, and name calling, coming from both sides.  One side says that it is a moral issue; the other side sees it as a political issue.  One side cites sodomy as a sin and a detriment to the culture, the other side decries such claims as hypocritical to the core and their opponents as the detriment to culture.  Neither side will change their entrenched viewpoint and are convinced of their own cause.  In the middle are the vast majority of uncommitted people.  They do not desire a sexual relationship with their own gender but take a neutral position of “live and let live”.  They need answers to their politically sensitive questions, but all they receive are biased television programs or sound bites of angry people.  Because there is no dialog between the two entrenched ideals, there is nothing left of substance.  Misinformation rules.  Honest dialog would be helpful for the ones swept into this political/moral debate who are sadly lacking credible information.

I line up to the right of the issue.  Although there is no room for compromise there is still a desire to “live peaceably with all men” (Romans 12:8).  For the sake of discussion let me list the core beliefs of many evangelical Christians.

  1. We deny the assumption that people are born gay. We believe it is a learned behavior or otherwise influenced by a culture increasingly discarding long held codes of morality.
  2. We site Scripture as the foundation of our beliefs. Since we believed the Bible to be God’s word, it is regarded as our supreme authority.  I have heard the accusations made that we twist truth to our own benefit and make God look like He is unloving and judgmental.  That is worthy of discussion.
  3. We do not hate those who are gay Most of us do not have gay friends with whom we could engage in intelligent and civil conversation.  This is unfortunate, but it is not hate.  God does not hate those who are gay, but His mercy is available to them as it is to us.
  4. We resent being labeled as “Homophobic”. This was a term invented to describe any person who disagrees with the gay lifestyle.  It is used in a derogatory way with a polarizing effect.
  5. Marriage is designed by our creator and not by our Congress. We take God’s plan for marriage to be one that transcends political correctness.  It is not just a personal preference, but also a proven builder of families.  We do not wish to cram our belief down every one else’s throat. Perhaps our method of expressing our beliefs could be another item of discussion.

On the other hand, there are snippets of reported facts within the evangelical community that are suspect of misinformation. Dialog could slow down the fire of misinformation and could be a way of answering honest questions.  Let me mention just a few.

  1. How do we know that one is born gay?  Is it subjective, scientific, genetic, or preference?
  2. What is the average length of a gay relationship?  Is it true that the gay lifestyle involves dozens of sexual relationships in a lifetime?
  3. Is this an issue supported by the Black community?  Do they see it as a civil rights issue?
  4. What are the odds of a gay person contracting HIV?  What are the methods taken by the gay community to prevent its spread?
  5. If gays were permitted in the military without any regard to disclosure would there be fewer enlistments and more discharges?  Will the issue compromise national security for the sake of a social experiment?
  6. If a gay person used the same locker room as a straight person, is that like straight men and women sharing such a facility?  Will the military be required to compensate?
  7. What really is our country’s percentage of gays and lesbians?  How are statistics even gathered?

I realize that the suggestion for an open dialog with the gay community could be interpreted as a compromise of my Christian values.  I simply feel that we need to try and understand each other, putting aside hateful rhetoric and cookie cutter stereotypes.




2 responses

23 11 2009
Wayne Collins

Is homosexuality looked on by God differently then other sins? If not shouldn’t Christians just treat Gays like they would any other sinner(Which we all are) ?

10 06 2010
Annie Wright

I’m not sure we compromise anything by loving someone who is or is not gay… I honestly do not think God says you are Gay and you do not worship me. I think God is HAPPY when he has chosen someone and they choose him back. God Bless EVERYONE!

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